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And the drama continues! :O)   1 comment

Called a cab at 1:30 PM to go to my 2:10 PM appointment at the ‘walk in’clinic. Cab didn’t show but a neighbor did and I asked Larry to drive me to CVS which he did. He was willing to wait but I told him I had no idea how long it would be and that I would call a cab or uber or lyfte!

The easy part was the nurse practitioner gave me an exam and came to the conclusion I had ‘allergic conjunctivitis’ which was not contagious. She said she would write a prescription that I could pick up here at the CVS pharmacy. (Yeah! Like life is easy!) I was surprised at the diagnosis as I have never been allergic to anything but I was glad it wasn’t ‘pink eye’. She said I should go see my eye doctor and/or primary doctor if the eye didn’t look better in 24-48 hours.

I walked over to the pharmacy and it being Sunday there wasn’t anyone I knew behind the counter. I gave the lady behind the counter the prescription and she said it would be ready in 10 minutes! Are you ready???? 30 minutes later when I asked how it was doing she said I would have to come back tomorrow as the register was down and they couldn’t bring up my records, charge for the medicine, etc., etc. I, very politely—yes, calm, quiet, nicely–called the pharmacist over and explained that I had to take cabs yesterday, a cab today, and unless he was willing to pay for a roundtrip cab ride tomorrow,I would need the eye drops today! I further explained that they had my medical record, the meds I had filled there over the past 10 years plus they had my address, phone number and credit card on file. I told him, very politely—yes, calm, quiet, nicely–STILL–that he could charge me when the register was working again and text or email me a copy of the bill. To my surprise he did!

I left CVS and called for a cab and was told that if it didn’t arrive within 10 minutes I should call back as they were having trouble with the dispatchers.

Long story short–I left home at 1:30 PM, the CVS is 5 minutes away from where I live and I got home at 4:30 PM.Just put an eye drop in the eye, having coffee, relaxing and proud of myself for how great I had acted in the pharmacy!!!Hopefully, this drama will NOT be continued!

Posted July 11, 2021 by greatmartin in GAY

Being Transgender: 2 documentaries and 1 ‘Hollywood’ film–reviews Gay Pride Month June 2021   Leave a comment

As a gay man I have been puzzled about transgender people because, in spite of what was said about gay men 70+ years ago, I never wanted to be a woman nor have I been exactly PC with drag queens. I did at one time, in the 1950s, have a relationship with Paul who I thought was a crossdresser but now that I think of it he might have been transgender though little was known about it at the time. This was just before Christine Jorgensen, an army veteran, who in 1951-1952 had sex reassignment surgery and made headlines when she came home from Sweden. (As an aside she went to Christopher Columbus High School which I, also, went to 2 years after she graduated but she is never mentioned there.)

It wasn’t until 22 years later that Renee Richards, a tennis champ, came out as transgender and battled to play in the women’s division!

Due to “Changing the Game” and “Growing Up Trans” I have become more understanding of transgenders and though we have many things in common regarding being ‘different’ and ‘coming out’ they have a much harder time and looked at differently than gay people, even from those of us who should know better. The more I learn about them–and I have a lot more to learn–the more I admire their tenacity, their struggle and their bravery.

“Changing the Game” (HULU) follows 3 high school athletes and how they navigate, fight to stand/play where they belong. “Growing Up Trans” (Prime Video) focuses on children and how they are handling their sexuality, mainly before puberty, of who they know they are and how the parents deal with it, in most cases with the father having the hardest time. It also emphasizes how doctors and researchers acknowledge the kids are pioneers. For the record “The results included the following LGBTQ suicide statistics: LGBTQ youth were 3.5 times as likely to attempt suicide as their heterosexual peers Transgender teens were 5.87 times more likely Gay and lesbian youth were 3.71 times more likely Bisexual youth were 3.69 times more likely to attempt suicide than teens who identified as heterosexual.” (https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/lgbt-suicide-statistics/)

PLEASE WATCH “GROWING UP TRANS” AND “CHANGING THE GAME” AS A DOUBLE BILL.

“Adam” (HULU) is a ‘Hollywood’ satirical look, and not too good, at the above problems

Posted June 25, 2021 by greatmartin in GAY, Transgender

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Streaming Movies for Gay Pride Month June 2021 Part 4   Leave a comment


1) “Shared Rooms”–Hulu–American film–1 hour & 15 minutes–frontal nudity–3 gay couples–Christmas holiday–how they make families (or not)–WASTE OF TIME

2) “I Want Your Love”–Prime Amazon–American film–1 hour & 11 minutes–with nothing to say it throws in soft porn and MAKES MOVIE SEEM LIKE 71 HOURS

3) “Trade”–Prime Amazon–film–1 hour & 53 minutes–Coco Shawn (played by T. Ashanti Mozelle) is a hustler and Michael (Austin Miller) a lawyer–the former educates the latter– COCO’S STORY MORE INTERESTING AND MORE REALISTIC THAN MICHAEL’S

4) “Naz & Maalik”–Prime Amazon–American film–1 hour & 26 minutes–2 Black Brooklyn Muslim boys confront their sexuality–aspect of gay life with people not usually seen in a movie–RIDICULOUS FBI STORYLINE THAT GOES ASTRAY BUT MAKES IT MOVIE LENGTH

5) “BWOY”–Prime Amazon–1 hour & 27 minutes–a married man, has an affair with a young Jamaican man starting online–except for ‘soft porn’ this shows an aspect of gay life very rarely spoken about–anyone familiar with this storyline knows where it is going–YES THERE ARE GUYS LIKE BRAD WHO SHOULD KNOW BETTER

6) “CIAO”–HERETV–American film–1 hour & 27 minutes–two guys have a friend who recently died–Andrea, a cyber friend of Mark, from Italy, is invited to visit Texas by Jeff who was Mark’s best friend–too many ‘fillers’, unnecessary scenes, makes IT SEEMS TOO LONG AND BY THE TIME YOU GET TO ‘CLIMAX’ IT IS ANTI-CLIMATIC–PUN INTENDED

7) “I Am Michael”–Netflix–American film–1 hour & 45 minutes–is he Gay? Straight? Bi?–who cares?!–BASED ON A TRUE STORY–JAMES FRANCO MORE BELIEVABLE AS GAY MAN THAN STRAIGHT PASTOR IN HIS TRANSFORMATION–TRUE (?) STORY

Posted June 22, 2021 by greatmartin in GAY, MOVIES, Streaming

Streaming Movies For Gay Pride Month June 2021 Part 3   Leave a comment


1) “My Best Friend”–Prime Amazon–Argentinian movie–1 hour & 31 minutes–we get to know Lorenzo and Caito as they get to know each other–whether the former is gay and the latter isn’t won’t be answered until the end and then it doesn’t even matter–ANGELO SPINETTA  AND LAUTERO RODRIGUEZ AS THE LEADS ARE ATTRACTIVE AND TERRIFIC AS 2 YOUNG ADULTS WHO NEED A FRIEND AT THIS TIME IN THEIR LIFE

2)”Dear Ex”–Netflix–Taiwan film–1 hour & 39 minutes–a man leaves his life insurance to his male lover instead of wife and kid–the widow is infuriated and the kid caught in-between her and his dad’s lover–A FUNNY ROM-COM THAT TURNS INTO A FAMILY DRAMA

3) “Just Friends”–Prime Amazon–Dutch movie–1 hour & 20 minutes–an easy going sweet love story about opposites attracting–DELIGHTFUL FROM BEGINNING TO END

4) “Shelter”–Prime Amazon–American film–1 hour & 28 minutes–Zach basically brings up his nephew, takes care of his sick dad and helps his sister who is only interested in her own welfare–it is also the story of Zach falling in love with his best friend’s brother–SIT BACK, RELAX AND ENJOY THIS REALLY SWEET MOVIE WITH AN ATTRACTIVE CAST

5) “Test”–Prime Amazon–American film–1 hour & 29 minutes–if there is no other reason, and there are many, you should watch this to see what a ballet dancer, in this case Scott Marlowe, can do with their bodies–unbelievable–it’s 1985 in San Francisco–Rock Hudson was on the cover of Newsweek–WE WATCH 2 MEN AND THEIR REACTION TO THE AIDS VIRUS WITHOUT HISTRIONICS

6) “Dancing Queens”–Netflix–Swedish film–with a title of a movie being Dancing Queens and the song “I Will Survive” as the center of 2 production numbers in a drag club you know this is disco and fun–Molly is a straight woman who pretends to be a man in order to dance as a drag queen in a gay club–the choreographer of the club helps her disguise herself–talk about ballet dancers and what they can do with their bodies (see the review of Scott Marlowe in “Test” and)  Fredrik Quinones in this film–except for a secondary storyline which is somewhat of a downer  and a few storylines are not resolved it sort of redeems itself by showing the actor, their real name and the role they played at the end credits–THIS IS LAUGHS & FUN AND YOU CAN NEVER GET TIRED OF GLORIA GAYNOR DOING THE DISCO ANTHEM

Posted June 21, 2021 by greatmartin in ENTERTAINMENT, GAY, Streaming

Streaming films Gay Pride 2021 Part 2   Leave a comment


1) “4th Man Out”–Hulu–movie–1 hour & 26 minutes–Adam, the 4th guy, comes out to his 3 straight friends–every gay stereotype you can think of & a few ‘inside’ you can’t–NOTHING WORTH SEEING

2) “Gayby”–Hulu–movie–1 hour & 29 minutes–a gay man and a gay woman, high school friends and now adults, decide to have a baby the ‘old fashioned way’–Adam Driver billed 10th in a gay film–CUTE, FUNNY, NOT AT ALL EXPECTED

3) “Leov”–Netflix–movie–1 hour & 29 minutes–one of the main actors, Dhruv Ganesh–has died of TB so there won’t be any sequel–I liked seeing Mumbai and the surrounding country– SCREENPLAY DIDN’T NAKE SENSE–AT LEAST TO ME!

4) “Monsoon”–Netflix–movie–1 hour & 25 minutes–though he is fairly new to movies having made a big hit in “Crazy Rich Asians” Henry Golding has become an actor whose movies I want to see–here he returns to Vietnam having escaped with his family when he was 6 as the war started–now he is returning with his parent’s ashes–along the way we meet how different people like Americans who stayed after the war, Vietnamese who fought in the war and remained–A LOOK AT A CITY AND THE PEOPLE AFTER A WAR

5) “Pit Stop”–Prime Video–movie–1 hour & 20 minutes–4 couples who have broken up looking for love– SCREENPLAY TOO SHORT FOR ANY OF THE CHARACTERS TO LEAVE AN IMPRESSION

6) “Love Victor”–Hulu–series–season 2–10 episodes–4 hours & 49 minutes–based on a film about a teenager struggling with who he may be–the series picks up where he comes out and how he deals with his parents, friends and first lover–and an ex-girlfriend who like most teens gay and/or nongay are dealing with their sexuality–teenagers are teenagers–I DO KNOW IF BENJI DOESN’T COME BACK FOR THE 3RD SEASON NEITHER AM I!

7) “Les Ballets Trockadora de Monte Carlo” PBS–also known as “The Ballerina Boys” on PBS Passport–documentary–1 hour–looks at this all-male ballet company founded 47 years ago and playing to sold-out audiences ever since–THE COMEDY ASPECTS OF THE COMPANY AND THE SINCERITY OF THE ‘BOYS’ MAKES THIS A WINNER

Posted June 14, 2021 by greatmartin in ENTERTAINMENT, GAY, Streaming

GAY PRIDE MONTH JUNE 2021 PART 2   Leave a comment

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1) “Gay Like Me” by Richie Jackson–one of the best books–if not THE best–about gay life for Gay & non-Gay people–he is open, honest and even though it says, “A Father Writes to His Son” it is if he is writing directly to you whether father, mother, a relative of any kind, man, woman, knowledgable of Gay life and People or know nothing of them or only know what politicians and religious ‘leaders’ preach! Over the years I have donated to many Gay causes and these are just 3 of them!

2) The Hetrick-Martin Institute “The Hetrick-Martin Institute is a New York City-based non-profit organization devoted to serving the needs of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning youth between the ages of 13 and 24, and their families.”Ilearned very early that instead of giving a lot of money to one organization–which is nice–all organizations need/can use funds small or large. I never failed to send this Institute something over the years!

3) Gay Games IV “The Gay Games is a worldwide sport and cultural event that promotes acceptance of sexual diversity, featuring lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender athletes, artists and other individuals.” The athletes need a venue wherever they may travel and donations of all sizes help pay for that, obviously very much needed. In 2022 they will take place in Hong Kong and I am curious as to how they will handle the transgender athletes, hopefully doing the right thing!

4) The Celluloid Closet  “The Celluloid Closet is a 1996 American documentary film directed and written by Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman. The film is based on the 1981 (revised 1987) book of the same name written by Vito Russo.” From the first time I read the book I thought it was the perfect gift to give to anyone interested in movies and/or Gay life. As soon as I read they were making a movie of the book I had to help them get it made. All involved did an excellent job and the movie should be seen! (By the way, the ‘Dr.’ Goodkin was misinterpreted by someone seeing Martin D. on the donation!!!)

The first 2 quotes #2 & #3 are from wikipedia and #4 from bing.

Posted June 7, 2021 by greatmartin in GAY, LIFE, LIFE EVENTS

GAY PRIDE JUNE 21 2021 PART 1   Leave a comment

                                                              
President Joe Biden issues a proclamation to start Pride Month

https://www.turnto23.com/news/politics/president-joe-biden-issues-a-proclamation-to-start-pride-month

Pride Month is celebrated every June 2021–PART 1

HISTORY–June 28 1969  Stonewall Bar Pride Month is set aside to celebrate LGBTQ+ people, their daily contributions to our world, and to pay respects to the struggles that have yet to be overcome. Pride is all about honor and celebration. Pride events are geared toward anyone who feels like their sexual identity falls outside the mainstream — although many straight people join in, too.

LGBT is an acronym meaning lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender. The term sometimes is extended to LGBTQ, or even LGBTQIA, to include queer, intersex and asexual groups. Queer is an umbrella term for non-straight people; intersex refers to those whose sex is not clearly defined because of genetic, hormonal or biological differences; and asexual describes those who don’t experience sexual attraction. These terms may also include gender fluid people, or those whose gender identity shifts over time or depending on the situation.

Brenda Howard, a bisexual New York activist nicknamed the “Mother of Pride,” organized the first Pride parade to commemorate the one-year anniversary of the Stonewall uprising. She believed Gay Pride was needed:

 1. Because Unity Is Strength

2. Because It’s Important To Show You Are Proud To Be You

3. Because It’s Important To Make Yourself Heard

4. Because We Are Done Hiding

5. Because Support Is Everything

6. Celebration And Unity

7.Pride Brings Comfort and Safety

8.Pride Raises Awareness

9. LGBTQ Awareness, Bullying and Taking a Stand

10. Pride shows LGBTQ youth that there is a community for them

https://www.pride.com/movies/2020/10/06/10-best-lgbtq-coming-age-movies#media-gallery-media-5

Posted June 1, 2021 by greatmartin in GAY, LIFE, LIFE EVENTS

Born Gay? Chose to be Gay? Who cares?   1 comment

 
I lived in New York in June 1969 but I am not one of the millions who claim they were at the Stonewall Bar the night it was raided. In those days I was a bit of a ‘bar snob, going only to the ‘better bars’! My partner and I were at the theater that night and didn’t know about it until we got home and heard it on the news. The next day we walked down to the Village and spoke to the many people hanging around. We would fly back to New York—we were now living in Memphis—for the first Gay Pride Parade. And 50 years later I celebrate the event and where it leads to and will continue to celebrate it every year.

 

Was I born Gay? Maybe and if I was I would love to thank the relative who passed down the gene. Did I choose to be Gay? I don’t know but if I did it was the smartest choice I ever made.

To celebrate I offer the following with the first C&P from Susan on facebook and the second, also copied from facebook, that offers solace to the many still in the closet, to that young person in the Midwest who thinks they are the only Gay person in the world, to those who have been thrown out of their church and/or those thrown out on the street by their parents or those who have to read on the Internet anti-Gay comments made by people who have Gay children, Gay spouses, Gay relatives, Gay friends, etc., and claim they love them yet hurt them with telling them they are ‘less than’. We will never know the percentage of Gay people in your town, city, State, country, family, friends but know that there are millions of us here for you!
 
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Posted June 23, 2019 by greatmartin in GAY, LIFE, LIFE EVENTS, Uncategorized

REST IN PEACE–TO NEVER BE FORGOTTEN   Leave a comment

HOPEFULLY NO MORE WILL BE ADDED!

Victims’ Names

During this difficult time, we offer heartfelt condolences to the families of the 49 victims who lost their lives during the Pulse tragedy. To the families and friends of the victims, your city is with you and will continue to be with you as you deal with this unimaginable tragedy.

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old

Amanda Alvear, 25 years old

Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old

Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old

Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old

Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old

Cory James Connell, 21 years old

Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old

Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old

Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old

Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old

Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old

Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old

Frank Hernandez, 27 years old

Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old

Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old

Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old

Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old

Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old

Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old

Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old

Kimberly Morris, 37 years old

Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old

Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old

Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old

Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old

Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old

Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old

Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old

Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old

Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old

Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old

Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old

Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old

Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old

Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

Posted June 14, 2016 by greatmartin in FRIENDS, GAY, LIFE EVENTS, LOVE, Uncategorized

HALLOWEEN: THE GAY HOLIDAY   1 comment


There is a distinct difference between cross dressers, drag queens and the neighbors who put a lamp shade on their head for Halloween. And neither category necessarily means the person is gay or has a sexual identity problem. I don’t profess to be an expert on any of these subjects though I have enjoyed Jim Bailey as Barbra Streisand in his one man show in Las Vegas. I am not a fan of ‘Dame Edna’ but I loved Charles Pierce and who didn’t laugh at Flip Wilson as Geraldine?

Since ancient days men have gone on stage dressed as women and the Shakespearean era was known for not allowing women on stage. There is an excellent movie starring Billy Crudup and Claire Danes with the latter playing female figures such as Desdemona on stage until the king decrees that women can do stage roles . There was also “Shakespeare in Love” where Gwyneth Paltrow had to play a young man auditioning for the role of Romeo. Who hasn’t laughed at Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon in drag in “Some Like It Hot” or enjoyed Dustin Hoffman as “Tootsie”?

What does all this have to do with Halloween being a Gay holiday? What follows is MY experience and what I observed over the years. Now I haven’t been into a gay bar in years so I don’t know if this Halloween we will still see hundreds of Judy Garlands and Nuns but at one time both were a symbol of the holiday.

In the 1950s and 1960s many States had laws on the books–and some probably still do–that a man could not dress as a woman or he could be arrested. In fact I went to a number of bars, called the Bird Circuit, in New York where men were not allowed to touch each other. Some had dancing in a back room and if a bartender thought a customer looked suspicious, like a plainclothesman, he would flick the lights in the backroom from a switch under the bar and the men would immediately stop dancing.

Back then there were infamous drag balls in Harlem that were known far and wide attended by many socialites. The costumes were outrageous, each one more glamorous than the next one and though illegal it went on without a hitch. Dressing up in costume for Halloween became high art and some of the grandest balls were held that night.

I vaguely remember being in the Faision D’Or bar one Halloween sort of surprised by all the women who were in there–hey I was young back then–only to slowly became aware it was men. Living in New York drag shows were nothing new and in fact there was a nightclub that catered to tourists where the cast was all men dressed as women except for one woman dressed as a man. Yes even back then drag was an accepted form of entertainment.

I don’t remember the name of the bar on Miami Beach that was off LIncoln Road on Alton Road that in the early 1960s did drag revues and a few blocks south was the famous Jewel Box Revue that traveled all over the USA and would be nodded to by the character Paul in “A Chorus Line” in 1975.

There being drag in New York and Florida really didn’t surprise me but I was surprised to find a drag bar–don’t remember the name–in Memphis, Tennessee, when I moved there in 1969. I, also, remember the high caliber , finely polished drag show I saw in Sidney, Australia, a few years later where it was all live music including the singing but that’s another blog.

Halloween as a big gay holiday hit home to me when I moved to Fort Lauderdale in 1979 and went to The Sandpiper nightclub that October 31. At that time we had 4 different gay magazines/bar guides/newspapers and the ‘Best Costume’ events were being held in every bar–gay or nongay–but the biggest awards/ prizes were in the gay bars. That was the night I thought the whole world was made up of Judy Garland!

THE FOLLOWING WILL TELL YOU ABOUT HALLOWEEN BEING A GAY HOLIDAY

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/irene-monroe/halloween-americas-gay-holiday_b_1034013.html 

FOR THE BIGGEST PARTY OF ALL

http://www.jumponmarkslist.com/us/fl/fll/events/wicked-wilton-manors-gay-halloween.php

Posted October 31, 2015 by greatmartin in GAY

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